Thought It Was Going To Be Kismet

 I went on Bumble because I was falsely hopeful yet again... My work friend have gone on some amazing dates (she pays for Bumble, I should real pay at least for two month).

The date that I recently went on.

Specs:

• 42
• We actually went to the same middle school and high school
• YouTube content creator - Toronto & Travel content
• Smart/Intelligent
• Lives at Yonge and Eg
• No car
• Broke up with this girlfriend 6 months ago
• Father passed

First it had annoyed me that he wanted me to pick the time and the place. The first, first date we were supposed to go on he cancelled because his friend was moving to NY and they were throwing a going away party. That was fine, I ended up flying out to Vancouver for the weekend.

When we picked a new date, again, I had to pick a time and place. Since my girlfriends and I were going to do brunch in Toronto, I decided to meet at 2:30pm at a cafe by Bloor and Christie. I also wanted Hodo Kwaja (Walnut Cake) and I needed to pick up new face lotion, so it was purely out of convenience. Leading up to the date, the chats weren't consistent. Which was fine. I did warn him, that I have only had 3 second dates in my life and only 2 3rd dates (Although, I don't know if Weedman is considered third date). He made the comment, that this could be our first and our last time meeting while we would have walked by each other in the hallway 5,000 times.

Since he is a content creator, he has mentioned that he gets noticed by fans. He also mentioned how he went on a date with a fan. He even sent me screen shots of people saying that they recognized him. I have told him a few times I didn't care about this influencer/content creator world. When he got to the date he showed me an IG message from someone who recognized him the night before and also mentioned how he got noticed 3 times walking over to the cafe.

The guy is a smart guy, but the topics we talked about?!?! Are these first date topics??

• TFSA/RRSP Max Out... I got a lecture on how I should max out my TFSA (ETF) and RRSP. He has told me that he has maxed his out.. Soooo!!? not too sure what he was trying to prove.
• Mentions his ex again..
• she has a house at Dupont
• is a Dr
• was married twice before
• finally I said why did you guys break up and he said because she got tired of him, she was that kind of a person
• Showed me a screen of this crypto that a viewer sent him
• Has $30K in his bank
• The dude tells me how much he has in his bank and yet bitches how when him and his ex used to go out he would spend $200 on their dinners and cocktails.. I'm like dude.. that's my bill on my own!
• Put money into Visa so that it's at a debit because he bought business class tickets to Paris and Barcelona (on Air Transat.. Barf)
• tells me he makes anywhere from $5,000 - $20,000/month

He didn't ask anything about me.. He was texting with his mom because she needed support. She moved her brother into a long term care home; she had asked if he wanted to help but he said no. He didn't want to cancel on me again and he wanted to shoot Pride content. I told him I would have understood if he cancelled on me.

He brought his camera and went on how he forgot the camera holder and needed to tape the camera onto the stick. I felt like obviously he is bragging at the same time had to justify/reassure that this is a real job. He said he wanted to retire early. I said aren't you pretty much semi retired? Then goes onto say there are weeks when he works 70-80 hours... right...... 

I knew the date was not going well.. There were times when he gave me Going the Distance vibes. Especially when he had asked me watch his things and reiterated that his camera stuff are expensive. In my head I was thinking, dude the two rings I am wearing can pay for your whole gear! He made a comment how it was a 2:30pm date, BUT I had Weedman in the evening. I was NOT going to cancel Weedman for him. If you wanted a different time, you should have picked a time and place!

At the end of the date, he said, "I remember you, your last name is XXXXX" I was like yeah.. how did you know? I wasn't part of any clubs or sports teams?! He didn't say.. He walked me to my Hodo Kwaja (Walnut Cake) and my lotion store, that was nice of him. Prior to the date as a joke I said maybe he can order my things for me in Korean (he had lived in Korea for 5 years). Once he heard me order he's like you're Korean is good. Like dude! you seriously thought I was going to have you order for me in Korean? As I was going into the lotion store he asked if he can go.. I said of course.. I mean I thought we were going to part ways after the cafe.

When I got in the subway. I had asked him for his last name, I obviously Googled him. There was a cute article written about him. I still don't remember who he is.. Too bad things didn't work out... I thought with our similarities and the fact that we went to the same middle school and high school, I thought this was going to be kismet.