Online Dating In The City

Great Big World said it the best in their song Say Something: Say something, I'm giving up on you I'll be the one, if you want me to Anywhere I would've followed you Say something, I'm giving up on you And I am feeling so small It was over my head I know nothing at all And I will stumble & fall I'm still learning to love Just starting to crawl Say something, I'm giving up on you I'm sorry that I couldn't get to you Anywhere I would've followed you Say something, I'm giving up on you And I will swallow my pride You're the one that I love And I'm saying goodbye I really liked Kangta, but the days leading up to my break up I was not feeling so great about him. So, after Valentine's day I did not hear from him, which was unusual because up until that point he was the one who called me everyday! So I called him on the Wednesday (Valentines Day was on Saturday), but he couldn't talk because he was sick (aga...

Out of anger, I was going to write about every intimate thing, but to be fair we did have good times. I do think he is a good guy, but perhaps I wasn't the person for him. So, I just decided to write about the Broken Promises, Lies, and the Lack of Effort and also, some signs that this was coming and that he wasn't all that he seemed, under Should've Known Better. Lies - I am his best friend - I am the second more important person in his life after his family - He doesn't own his house - I work in real estate, not too sure why he would lie about that, the title is under his parent's name. Lack of Effort - no present for Christmas (understandable because we were only dating for a month), but didn't even go out for dinner - Forgot my birthday - Didn't make up for my birthday - Said he was going to quit smoking (didn't) - Said he was going to quit drinking (didn't) Broken Promises - When we make plans I will never cancel - since the d...

So, Kangta was going to be my husband in my head, but he didn't know it yet. I played it cool.. I met Kangta on the 7th, on the 13th I went to church (yes on a Thursday) and prayed.. I met this great guy.. Give me a sign.. By 16th I got my sign. We met on the 15th, by this time we were meeting each other 3 times a week. On November 16th approx 3:30am he told me he liked me! I couldn't believe it.. This was my sign! Again, I was on cloud 1000!! He said lets get to know each other, I was ecstatic! That night we met up, he was having a bad day and so I suggested we go to karaoke. For those who know me know I LOVE to karaoke!! He is a great singer (check) ! After this we were pretty much meeting up everyday. We were going to bars around the area and just talking for hours! We were getting to know each other and where we have been and where we want to go. Talked about our friends and family. The more I knew about his life the more I was starting to fall for him. Even his sha...

After the meeting him at the bar on Tuesday he had asked me if I wanted to meet up with him on Saturday.. Of course I said sure. I was excited the whole week. When Saturday came, we were supposed to go to a local tapas restaurant. while I was waiting for him I noticed his friend there. I said hi to him and he told me he was waiting for Kangta.. I thought, 'What the hell?? is this not a date??' then was sort of upset. He called me as he got near and explained that his friend called him because he was having a shitty day and wanted to come out (check - compassion) . The tapas restaurant was busy, so we went to the bar we went to on Tuesday night. They had a promotion going on, if you ordered a Carlsberg, you can keep the 2 litre cup it came in. Since I don't drink beer he had the beer for me and gave me the cup. They also had Cooler cup in a mason jar, I wanted it, so he took it for me. I loved him for the petty theft! We went to a bar that has been in the neighbourhood f...

Like the oil price decline in 2014, my relationship like Kangta rapidly declined. In June 2014, oil prices were trading at $104/barrel, but by December 2014 oil priced rapidly decreased to $50/barrel. This blog will be an outlet for me to vent and perhaps get some perspective on what had gone wrong so rapidly. **Disclosure**The timeline for these entries are somewhat more accurate than my previous entries. My last entry was November 20th, but by then Kangta and I were girlfriend and boyfriend, the outing with Kelly happened weeks before. As of Wednesday March 18, 2015 approx 7:20pm, I have become single again.. Breakup via voicemail, this will all be explained... The Day We Met: The day we met, he paid for our tab. I thought, "wow that's nice of him.. Sooo Korean!!" We don't even know this guy and let me tell you when my friend Ingrid and I drink, it's not cheap! Then we went to the second bar and his friend paid for our tab (so I thought.. more t...

Hello!! It's been a while!!! Let me update you as to what had happened from my last entry! My last entry was on November 20, 2014. On November 7th I went to a bar and met a guy!! Back Story: My friend was going away for a month and to celebrate her last night in Toronto we decided to go to a local bar that she had been dying to take me. When I stepped in, I thought, "WOW this is a small bar! and everyone here is white!" So being two Asians we stuck out and so did the guy that was standing right by the door. I noticed him.. He was definitely Korean  (check) ! We got to talking, he lived literally 5 mins away from me (check) ! He was funny (check) ! He worked for a commercial architecture firm (check, employed) ! Attractive (check) ! We talked all night long, we made future plans like riding our bikes and him cooking for me; that day I had married him in my head. Not only was he perfect on paper, but in my mind he was perfect in person! Overall I was falling for...