Perfect On Paper Means SHIT!

I messaged a guy on OKC. Yes, I messaged him because he was attractive and his profile intrigued me. So we exchanged some messages, but our messages were getting longer and longer, so I decided to give him my telephone number so we can text.

He is a really sweet guy (Check) with a great job, he works for the bank (Check). Always texted me in the morning to wish me a great day and messaged me after work hoping I had a great day. There was also a snow storm and told me to be careful! What a sweet guy! (Check)(Check)(Check) He also loves to golf and I mentioned how I wanted to learn and he said he would take me (Check).

So we decided to meet.. We agreed to meet at a Starbucks near my house. He calls me 5 minutes after the time we were supposed to meet saying that his car broke down. I thought.. what a load of shit! But we agreed to meet another day and I told him he owed me! So, we met on that Friday. When we agreed to meet he said he was going to make reservations at that point I loved him! I already had our second date planned out!

My first impression:

He's TALL! He's 6'5!
Attractive
Very polite (Check)
Very Catholic (goes to Mass every Saturday nights! Loved that!) (Check)

But I felt no chemistry! How can that be when we have great conversations through text and e-mail?! I was so perplexed, but I should've known better from my West Coast experience!

Although I had a nice time, I was sad there were no sparks! I ordered 4 glasses of wine and I can see him calculating the cost of our date! I felt bad, so when he went to the bathroom I paid for our meal! I ordered two more drinks and I got him to pay for that one.

The confusing part was... at the end of the night he texted me and thanked me for the evening and told me he had a great time! I said I did as well.

The next day, I told my girl friends (hereafter I will refer to them as my "counsels") I didn't really feel a chemistry, but they told me not to make up my mind so quickly and to go on at least another date with him.

I asked him if he was working on his report... 5 hours later (which I knew at that point he wasn't interested because he normally responded right away) he told me good luck with my search! and that he didn't feel a chemistry! I felt like I just got dumped!

I think shy people are able to use text messaging and emails as a platform to express themselves freely, but in person they have a harder time. But I know for this guy the right girl will bring him out of his shell, that person unfortunately is not be me. Good luck to him! and I need to move on!

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