Online Dating In The City

I went out with my friend Kelly, who is a school teacher for drinks on a Friday night around Liberty Village. We were having our girls night, we weren’t there to pick up guys or anything. It was just a new place to check out. Closer to 11:30pm these two guys walk up to us. One was a shorter Indian looking guy and the other was a fairly tall white guy. We started talking and the Indian guy kept talking to Kelly. Kelly introduced herself first and the white guy asked me, “what is her name? Pelly? How do you spell that?” and I said, “No! Kelly! K-E-L-L-Y”.  He introduced himself as Chris, and we will call his little Indian friend Josh. Things were going ok until we started talking about what we did. I told him I was an Executive Assistant at a financial institution. He said we both looked like the type of person who  works for a bank. I corrected him and told him Kelly was a teacher. He went onto telling me how his ex-gf is an executive assistant and worked for companies...

Although my blog is titled “Online Dating in the City”, it’s actually about my dating experiences overall. For the first time in my life I can say I went on a second date!!! I met him through my friend’s friend. We were at a Bachorlette party and a gay guy asked if we were Single? Married? Or in a relationship? Everyone there were either married or in a relationship, but I was the only single one. My friend’s friend offered to hook me up with her friend. My friend (the Bachlorette) was excited for my date and so was I. She would not tell me anything about him except that he was tall. We were talking through text messaging almost every day. He seemed like a cool guy. I was really nervous the day when I met him, because I didn’t know what he looked like and because he’s friends’ (Bachelorette) friend friend (it’s getting confusing), I wanted to make sure everything went well. He was running late of course (I don’t understand why people think it’s ok to be late?!), so I went to t...

I don't know about you, but I have been on many many many job interviews. Recruiters really like my resume, but the companies I meet with don't seem to think I'm right for the position. On paper I seemed to be qualified, but apparently not in person. So, I went on a date few weeks ago.... His specs: Job: Teacher Ethnicity: Korean Lives: Toronto Memorable Quote: "I am extremely cheap" Height: 5'6 (I am 5'5, when we were standing on a small slant I was taller than him) Religion: Something that sounds cult-ish Guys!! If you are cheap, DO NOT announce it on your first date!! The word cheap has a negative connotation. Anyways, I thought the date went well, he had a great personality (although short). We knew a lot of the same people, dated a girl I know and even went on a date with my friend few years ago! The girl broke up with him because he was in a cult-ish religion.. He did try to justify it (but I agree with her) ... He also talked about sho...

I am NOT having any luck with this online dating thing.. There was a guy who would message me "Good Morning Lovely ....." or "Good Night Beautiful ...." after corresponding with him for about 3 weeks we decided to finally meet. First I asked the guy when he was off work and he replied at 5pm. I told him I was going to be off at 4 because my bosses were away and then he replied asked if I wanted to meet at 4 or even at 2pm. He came on a little strong.. which worried me.. So the day of, I decided to get my nails done and meet him at 4:30pm at Tundra. I was excited because I have never been there and have heard good reviews. At 4:24pm I made my way to Tundra and messaged him. I even ruined my freshly manicured nails because my phone was way deep in my purse and I didn't want to miss his message or call. He messaged back saying he was on his way and would be there in 5 mins. Once I arrived I messaged him... No Answer I waited at Tundra, ordered a gla...

Time is a hot commodity. It is something we never have enough of and when wasted, we can never get it back. There was a guy that I've been talking to on Plenty of Fish. We exchanged numbers and started to chat through text messaging. He was a little aggressive, but I thought that was better than being passive. He asked me to meet him yesterday, it was a slow day at work so I said yes. But then I realized that I can leave work at 2pm, so I canceled and asked if we can reschedule it for next week. He then asked if we can meet on Saturday, but I told him I had plans; so he insisted we meet yesterday. In the meantime he told me he was having a slow day at work as well. We were originally going to meet at 5:30pm, but I had convinced him to meet earlier, so we agreed to meet at 5:15pm. At 5:06pm I messaged him I was on my way. At 5:08pm he messaged me he was going to be 10 mins late, then he told me he was going to be 20 mins late. At this point I had missed my 5:13pm train to go...

I recently went on a date to the Jays game. It was an exciting game, this game was going to determine whether the Jays were going to be first or second of their conference. We had seats right behind enemy lines. We were second row from the enemy dug out! Lets just say some baseball players are HOT!!!! So, now you're probably wondering why I'm going on about the baseball game.. It's because I have nothing to say about this date. This was probably one of the most boring date I have ever been on.. AND I have been on a date where the guy couldn't speak English! Specs: Occupation: Lawyer Height: 5'6 or 5'7 Decent Looking Pretty good on paper right? We chatted on text for a couple of days and then decided to meet. Even on text he didn't say much, but I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt. People are busy and can't text right away, or they are not a "texting" type. The way I ended this was gave him a quick hug, thanked him, and...

Or he wants to meet my friend instead....

Soo.. I have decided to give Plenty of Fish a try because I wasn't having much success with OKC. Lets just say guys on POF are better looking!! BUT I am having the same results.. Or maybe even crazier?? Is this my soul mate?? If he is.. then why does he have another girl hanging off of him? I hope to get interesting stories off this site.. I guess if POF fails, my next step would be match.com.

In movies or shows, the guys who are looking for a fuck buddy are the good looking douches.. But the guys who are approaching me are... lets just say homely looking. Some of these people don't have pictures on their profiles, but you don't know they can be good looking?! When will I learn? Those without pictures are NEVER good looking! Well, at least with my luck! The guy below said he was looking for a Fuck Buddy.. But I told him that's not what I was looking for and the reason why he doesn't have a picture is because he's hiding from his ex. So, I thought he was decent looking. He asked me what I looked for in a guy physically.. I responded: "Job, car, can't be balding, and not fat". Call me shallow, but I know what I want in my guy. I know I'm not the fittest person right now and it's not fair to want a guy who's worked hard for their body... But I am working on mine... My luck.. the guys who want to be Fuck buddies are never hot...

I haven't written in my blog in a while. It's also because I haven't had a date in a while. Online dating takes time and effort. At this point I am busy at work... I guess I can take this time to search for guys instead of writing on my post. The purpose of online dating is to make it easier for busy people to meet people. But online dating in my opinion takes a lot longer... I have to see their picture.. click on their profile.. etc... etc... etc... Well to help me out with this I have agreed to go on a speed date with a girl friend. I will be documenting this experience as well. Please keep checking my blog for my new dating adventures. Thanks for stopping by!

When you're online dating, there are those looking for a relationship and there are those looking for hook ups. I guess a hook up is a hook up no matter who it is.. BUT.. don't you feel better when a good looking guy asks if you want to hook up?! It's like in high school when the good looking quarter back asks you out on a date. That's wayyy better than the captain of the chess club or wood shop club asking you out (although these people can be really attractive as well, I'm basing it on Hollywood stereotypes). I recently changed my profile to state that I am NOT looking for a hook up. It also states to message me if you know how to read! I get the message below. So CLEARLY!!! He did not read my profile, or maybe he can't read?! Saw the picture and thought, definitely captain of the chess club... well he has balls.. unfortunately it was a straight; BLOCK - DELETE. The kid looks like he's 21; There are over 140,000 people online at any given time....

Yes online dating is easier because there isn't the face to face contact. BUT being needy is NOT OK! Being needy in person is not ok and being needy online is not ok! Needy Baby #1 Specs: 33 years old Studying to become a Physician's Assistant, but doesn't know whether he's going to get in Sort of a 'Smart Alec' Last relationship - approx a year ago (was cheated on) - well... is it really cheated on when technically he was the "other man"? So, she cheated on her boyfriend with this guy, but ended up going back to her boyfriend. I decided to talk to someone who lives in Buffalo.. Which I don't care, because I know I will never meet him, so what's the harm talking to someone just for the sake of talking to someone? Well.. the harm is I have to hear about this guy whine about not being in a relationship. After talking to him for approx a month, he started whining, not knowing where he was going in life and the fact that he w...

I wrote in my blog yesterday, hoping my next entry would be on Monday telling you guys what an awesome time I had at the movies. Instead... I am writing the very next day.. Why?? Because the dude texted me saying, "Sorry, but I need to cancel. I think you're pretty, but I found someone who's more suited for me". I don't get it.. Did he find another bus driver? The reason why the title of this blog is Don't Tamper with Your Standards , is because I feel like I lowered my standard for this guy and he still disappointed. I mean yes, I did get a free meal out of it, but I still didn't get a second date. There were yellow-red flags that were going up, but didn't mention them in the previous blog just in case there was a third date.. Things I looked past on: Education It is important for me the guy is educated, not that those with a degree are smarter, but it shows that they can commit to something and they can move up in their career. Bus Driver   ...

Not so bad looking guy messaged me.. Specs: Age: 37 Lives: Not too far from me Occupation: Transit Driver Education: Police College Date: Saturday Night Picture Provided by Union Social Eatery I was really excited for this date! We were going to a restaurant I have never been to called Union Social Eatery and we conversed well through BBM. He didn't have corny jokes like most 37 year olds, he is kind of a hater (which I actually like), but all in all he seemed like a good guy. Our date was at 6:00pm, while I was driving at around 5:40 I get a message saying that he's already there. I was thinking "DAYUM this guy is eager!". When I got there he got up to greet me, gave me a hug and we sat down ( green flag ). I was wearing my 4 inch heels, so I was a bit taller than him ( yellow check ); plus he has receding hairline (borderline red flag ), which I knew from his pictures. The place had decently priced food and on Saturdays they have $5.00 house wine!!...

The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines Bait and Switch as: a selling method in which a customer is attracted by the advertisement of a low-priced product but then is encouraged to buy a more expensive one. In the online world I define Bait and Switch as: luring people with a photo (either not yourself, or a picture from 10 years ago) and then showing up. I feel like I have been a victim to this trickery. Yes, this makes me sound shallow, but I would not have messaged them if I had known what they truly looked liked. First Incident: The first Bait and Switch occurred through Tinder. We started messaging each other and decided to skype after because it looked like we weren't going to meet anytime soon. Lets just say I'm pretty good at keeping a straight face and I had something else up on my screen while chatting with him. His Tinder picture was of a guy who looked outdoorsy (he even said he was), clean shaved, and approx in his late 20's early 30's. What I got w...

Is online dating really easier than meeting someone in a club?? When I go on my OK Cupid account I see that there are over 180,000 members.. So.. How does that make it easier to meet someone? It turns out you have to be very proactive on it! The only difference is that when you have the courage to message someone, they don't necessarily have to respond. I actually take the time to read over someone's profile, and message them, but no response. Although this is a faceless dating site there should still be some etiquette. I mean is it not considered rude for them not to either respond to the question or even just say thank you? I know they checked out my profile, which makes me sad... I thought online dating was supposed to relieve the pressure... Also, when did everyone start working out? These guys who are "so active" may still be single because they don't have time to meet girls.. Working, gyming, meeting up with friends pretty much takes up the whole week, s...

So, I have dabbled with guys who are in their 30's when I was in my 20's and guys in their 20's right now (in my 30's). So then I thought why not expand my range?! I clearly can't go younger, so I decided to go older. I have talked to two guys in their 40's. One was 41 and the other 47, both didn't turn out so well. 41 yearold This guy was tall lean a carpenter who just so happened to be working on a basement in my area. He messages me and we have a decent conversation and he asked me if I wanted to meet up. I declined politely because I had other plans. One day I finished work early, went home and decided to message him and asked him if he was available to meet up. He said sure and we decided on a time. Then all of a sudden he asks me why I had agreed to meet him. I told him I thought he was nice. Then he goes on a rampage on how I didn't read his profile and that I don't know anything about him. At this point I am annoyed and reminded him he...

I messaged a guy on OKC. Yes, I messaged him because he was attractive and his profile intrigued me. So we exchanged some messages, but our messages were getting longer and longer, so I decided to give him my telephone number so we can text. He is a really sweet guy (Check) with a great job, he works for the bank (Check) . Always texted me in the morning to wish me a great day and messaged me after work hoping I had a great day. There was also a snow storm and told me to be careful! What a sweet guy! (Check) (Check) (Check) He also loves to golf and I mentioned how I wanted to learn and he said he would take me (Check) . So we decided to meet.. We agreed to meet at a Starbucks near my house. He calls me 5 minutes after the time we were supposed to meet saying that his car broke down. I thought.. what a load of shit! But we agreed to meet another day and I told him he owed me! So, we met on that Friday. When we agreed to meet he said he was going to make reservations at that point ...

Soooo... I went on my first date from Okcupid. I thought after my Tinder dates I can take on the online dating world! The person I met was sort of pushy, which I thought was ok because it showed assertiveness.But as usual I was wrong. We messaged each other through the Okcupid platform and then in the midst of me replying back he instant messaged me and told me he couldn't wait for my email replies. Then he requests for my telephone number which I gave to him. So, we started texting.. His screen name had something to do with cooking.. so I asked him if he was a good cook or if he enjoyed cooking he said sort of/not really to both those answers (What the hell? Then why would you make it your screen name?).. He was very pushy to meet, so I had agreed to meet with him at a Starbucks. OMG! WTF? I got there early (15 mins), the guy tells me he will be there in 20 mins (5 mins late from our scheduled time). Then he messages me again at our scheduled time and tells me he will be...

Dates are like interviews, you think it went well and they don't call back for a second one... That was the case with my Tinder Date number two. He was a Chinese guy (my first Chinese date), he also chatted with my friend (Do friends really know best? second date hook up friend.. Lets call her HY). It turns out this guy is a avid Tinder user, he even used it in Hong Kong (he was only there for a week!); perhaps it's an only child thing.. Anyways, first we went to Joey's (by Eaton Centre) for a drink, it was my first time at Joey's it's a pretty happening place! Then we walked over to a place in China Town for dumplings called Yummy Yummy (located 79 Huron St). I tried mutton for the first time.. I did not like it! I would recommend the pork and chive dumpling (they are all handmade)! I was quite excited because I have never met a guy who loves dumplings as much as I do! Then we took a cab to a lounge called Carbon. It is a beautiful lounge with classic loft feel...

So, off Tinder I was talking to a really nice guy. Older, good job lived in the city. Great conversation the night before. The next day I was working late and I thought, Hey! This guy lives in the city and I have a taxi chit why don't I meet him for dinner and drinks? During our Tinder conversation, we were just talking about work and ourselves. So, I ask him that night if he wanted to meet. He said sure. He was the first guy I have ever met on Tinder/Online/This was my first blind date set up by me! I met him down the street from where I work. He was late, but I forgave him seeing so he lives on the other side of Downtown. He said it was going to be worth while. When he gets there he gives me 2 CD's. He burned a CD for me.. At that point I was trying to determine whether that was weird or sweet. I mean, who listens to CD's these days? All our songs are on our phones or IPODs.. Anyways, I ordered wine while waiting for him. When he arrived we were just talking shop, h...

My Friends' Thoughts: You're Single + My Friend is Single = Lets match them up! 2003 My first set up was in university. My friend Lee thought, 'Hey! You're Korean! My friend is Korean! I'm going to hook you up!' . I met him at his birthday, this was my first introduction to an awkward set up. Nice guy, good looking.. Was studying acting! He always wanted to meet my friends. As if I was the introduction to the Korean World..... We lost touch and he moved to Vancouver to pursue his career! Fast Forward 2014, more than a decade later You would think your friends would take their  when they hook you up with someone. I have been set up twice this year; both dates did not go well. Apparently I need to stop drinking on my dates, but the reason I drink so much is to keep myself entertained and interested! First Date:  I don't know if it's because I was so excited, but I ended up showing up to the date an 1hour early. When I told my date I was almost ...

Due to my lack of dating experience, this was the first time I realized just because the person is great on paper, doesn't mean he's great. A lot of the times there is a reason why a guy "great on paper" , but still single. But why am I still single? I guess we will get into that later. Anyways... So, this was another Korean Mama Drama set up, but this time this guy was: My mom's sister's (my aunt who lives out West) church member's son! So anyways, this guy was 32 and I was 29. He emailed me first, but because it was an awkward situation he wrote a light introduction email (green flag) . From that point on we were writing LONG emails everyday and bbming and eventually talking on the phone. We talked about meeting and he suggested we meet in Montreal during a 3 day music festival. I said sure, but prior to making my friends spend money so I can meet a guy, I told him I would like to meet him first. So, Canada Day long weekend... I made my trip out We...

During my university days I was very ambitious, like most people once I graduated I thought the world was going to be my clam shell and I was the pearl. The picture attached used to be my coffee order everyday! Quad Grande, 1 Pump Sugar-Free Vanilla, Non-fat, No Foam, Caramel Macchiato from Starbucks. Back in those days this cup cost me $4.27. NOW, it's $7.25 (luckily I had a free Starbucks reward)!!! I had always thought if I drank bouji coffee, dressed in name brand clothes and go to the gym everyday, I would attract a guy similar (now they're called metros). Like the saying if you throw it out to the universe it will come back (something like that). A guy who has money, therefore has a good job and was attractive were my main criteria. I needed all that fluff, very shallow! what and how people perceived me was important to me!! As I got older and as my coffee drinking buds have changed (simple: Triple Tall Americano, but still from Starbucks), I realized men are like c...

As mentioned before I am Korean and those Korean dramas got it all wrong! The nice girl doesn't always get the guy.. In reality the bitchy ones always get the guy.. Anyways, what does it mean to be Korean? It means I need to follow the following milestones Babysit siblings at age 8 (check) Work at the store at age 10 (check) Graduate University (check) Get married  Have children Help parents with finances I seem to be stuck at the finding someone and getting married part. To help speed that aspect of my life, my mom decided to send me off on various blind dates. Because I can't remember them all I am going to group them in this one blog. Accountant This guy was nice, good job, and shy.. He is an accountant for a major car industry. But soooo boring.. to the point where I pretty much drank a bottle of wine at dinner. Which isn't surprising because I can do that on a regular basis. But when you first meet someone you don't want them to know you're a bor...

So I joined Tinder.. NOT knowing it was a hook up app...... I was first introduced to Tinder by my friend over Thanksgiving Dinner. She told me about her friend who had gone on some dates through it. She told me it was a great app because they show you guys who are in your area... She failed to tell me it's mainly for hooking up. I couldn't download that app because at the time I had a work cell phone. Fast Forward January Another friend (same friend as the second blind date set up from, Do Friends Really Know Best? ) told me to download it because it's better than online dating.. It's a lot quicker, less bs, and easier. So with my new phone I downloaded the app. At first it was fun.. It's like a game, hot or not. And if a guy you say is hot and they like you as well you win! and the app asks if you want to play again? Let me share some of the characters I have encountered: The First Message I have received from Tinder: Guy: Hey, I think you're cute.. ...

It’s hard being single these days (especially when all your friends are in a relationship). The Rom-Com had it all wrong! A girl does not see a guy from across the room and he does not approach her.. Nor does the best friend suddenly realize he had always loved his girl BFF. What’s worse is that I am Korean, the Rom-Coms have NOTHING on Korean Dramas, where the guy ALWAYS falls for the “nice” girl and the bitchy girl gets shafted. About Me I am a late bloomer. When I was in high school about to pick my university I chose to study psychology (but ended up with a Honours Bachelor of Arts in History and Political Science). What I should have done is taken Business (but at that time I thought business was entrepreneurship, not knowing there were other aspects to business). I went to Waterloo for 2 years studying Psychology and Sociology. I did so poorly I was about to go on probation. Tell my parents that I was getting kicked out of school for a year? Yeah right! So I did the next bes...